Girl Code: Unlocking the Secrets to Success, Sanity, and Happiness for the Female Entrepreneur

partner or friend telling you to calm the hell down, and sometimes it just
takes a little time.

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Raise Your Glam Vibration
“Figure out who you are separate from your family, and the man or woman
you’re in a relationship with. Find who you are in this world and what you
need to feel good alone. I think that’s the most important thing in life. Find
a sense of self because with that, you can do anything else.”
– Angelina Jolie
It’s no secret that life as a female entrepreneur requires a lot of work.
Long hours, a thick skin, a relentless work ethic, and the ability to wear
many hats – or crowns – if you will, is all part of the game. We’re
constantly shifting gears from one responsibility to the next and we’re so
obsessed with our work that we often forget to put our needs and ourselves
first. We think of ourselves as businesswomen before women – and that is a
problem.
Many of my clients come to me with what they think is a “business
issue” and in reality, it’s a “life issue” that we need to work on before we
can even touch their business. If you think your unresolved issues with your
ex, or your struggles with your body image aren’t affecting your success,
you are wrong. Life and business are undeniably intertwined. When our
lives are a mess, our businesses mirror that. And on the flipside, when
we’re facing our life issues head-on and working to be the best versions of
ourselves, our businesses thrive.
I’m the first to admit I struggle with balancing my work and my life.
And I don’t think a true balance ever really exists, but I do think we need to
be aware of giving ourselves what we need as women, whether that’s time
alone, time in the gym, or mini breaks from our work to gain clarity and
inspiration. Whenever I ask women when the last time they took themselves
out on a date, or did something nice for themselves, the answer is sadly,
usually, “never.” It’s time to change that.
Learning how to treat yourself well is crucial when you’re in business
for yourself – especially when you spend a lot of time alone. You must
fiercely protect the things that are closest to your heart: your energy, your
passion, and your well-being. I am a solopreneur, meaning I work for
myself and although I hire people to help me out with my business like a
graphic designer and virtual assistant, I am still a one-woman show. There

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is no team of employees with me all day; I don’t even have an in-house
assistant (unless you count my shih tzu, though he could really use a lesson
in pouring champagne). I work from home and spend a lot of time by
myself. Even if I travel, or work from a café, I’m usually alone. And it’s not
always easy. There’s a level of isolation that occurs when you’re working
for yourself – by yourself – and it’s important to become comfortable with
that. You’ve got to become your own best friend. Although I take clients all
day long over the phone, there are days where I feel very alone. And I know
many entrepreneurs feel this way, too. When you truly like yourself, this is
much easier.
Working alone all day can be challenging when you don’t separate
work from play. I make it a point to take myself out on a date once a week.
If I didn’t do this, chances are I’d land in a psych ward in the same
Victoria’s Secret pink sweatpants and gray T-shirt that I would wear day in
and day out if you let me. Getting out of the house, dressing up, and putting
on makeup is crucial. Raising my “glam vibration” makes me feel pretty
and productive; two essential qualities that make me tick as a woman.
Putting on a gorgeous pair of heels, getting my hair blown out, and heading
out to a beautiful restaurant just lights me up in a way that is crucial to my
well-being.
I’m not gonna lie – I often wind up working from the restaurant or bar I
take myself to – but I make sure I do “fun work” like updating my social
media, networking, or brainstorming new and creative ideas. But there’s
something about getting out, chatting up the bartender, feeling glamorous,
and being around humans that has become my saving grace.
In addition to my solo dates, I try to build some social time into my
calendar as well. Even if it’s a quick lunch with my mom, I have to break
away from the computer and be around people. And I don’t feel guilty for
it, even when I’m on a deadline. Taking time away from your work will
only inspire your work, so make sure you get out there and see the outside
world a bit. If you can include a glass or two of wine and a brunch in the
mix, well that’s even better. It’s not just a luxury – it’s necessary for
survival as a lady boss.
And raising your glam vibration isn’t just about getting dolled up and
drinking champagne. Incorporating a fitness routine that feels fun and
empowering is a fabulous way to release endorphins and elevate your
mood. We spend so much time parked at our desks, it’s crucial that we

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move our bodies and work out regularly. I personally love SoulCycle, an
indoor cycling workout that incorporates the mind, body, and soul. The
instructors not only lead you in a physical workout, they lead you in a
mental workout as well. I’ve cried in class while listening to my instructor
talk about releasing your fears, riding for your dreams, and realizing that
you can change the course of your entire life. In fact, the idea for Girl Code
happened while I was riding that bike! I encourage you to find a workout
that you love, and use that time to zone out, pamper yourself, and give your
mind and body what it needs.