John Gray – Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus Scanned by nova scanner: Canoscan D1250 U2f software: Omnipage Pro 9 Date: 28 August 2002 Proofed by

or stressed he would withdraw into his cave. She was not to take it personally because it would 
happen from time to time. It did not mean that he did not love her. They assured her that he 
would come back. But most important they warned the young woman never to follow him into 
his cave. If she did then she would get burned by the dragon who protected the cave. 
 
Much unnecessary conflict has resulted from a woman following a man into his cave. Women 
just haven't understood that men really do need to be alone or silent when they are upset. 
When a man withdraws into his cave a woman just doesn't understand what is happening. She 
naturally tries to get him to talk. If there is a problem she hopes to nurture him by drawing him 
out and getting him to talk about it. 
 
She asks "Is there something wrong?" He says "No." But she can feel he is upset. She wonders 
why he is withholding his feelings. Instead of letting him work it out inside his cave she 
unknowingly interrupts his internal process. She asks again "I know something is bothering 
you, what is it?" 
 
He says "It's nothing." 
 
She asks "It's not nothing. Something's bothering you. What are you feeling?" 
 
He says "Look, I'm fine. Now leave me alone!" 
 
She says "How can you treat me like this? You never talk to me anymore. How am I supposed 
to know what you are feeling? You don't love me. I feel so rejected by you." 
 
At this point he loses control and begins saying things that he will regret later. His dragon 
comes out and hums her. 
 
WHEN MARTIANS DO TALK 
 
Women get burned not only when they unknowingly invade a man's introspective time but