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ANALYSIS
Thesis: See if you can present a solution I can’t find fault with.
Aim: Reassurance.
Roles: Helpless person, Advisers.
Dynamics: Surrender conflict (oral).
Examples: (1) Yes, but I can’t do my homework now because … (2)
Helpless wife.
Social Paradigm: Adult-Adult.
Adult: ‘What do you do if …’
Adult: ‘Why don’t you …’
Adult: ‘Yes, but …’
Psychological Paradigm: Parent-Child.
Parent: ‘I can make you grateful for my help.’
Child: ‘Go ahead and try.’
Moves: (1) Problem-Solution. (2) Objection-Solution. (3) Objection-
Disconcertion.
Advantages: (1) Internal Psychological – reassurance. (2) External
Psychological – avoids surrender. (3) Internal Social –YDYB, Parental role. (4)
External Social – YDYB, Child role. (5) Biological – rational discussion. (6)
Existential – Everybody wants to dominate me.

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REFERENCES
1.
von Chamisso, Adelbert, Peter Schlemiel, Calder, 1957.
2.
de Kock, Paul. One of the most popular works of this nineteenth-century
librettist and novelist is A Good-Natured Fellow, about a man who gives away
too much.

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9 · Sexual Games
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games are played to exploit or fight off sexual impulses These are all, in
effect, perversions of the sexual instincts in which the satisfaction is displaced
from the sexual act to the crucial transactions which constitute the payoff of the
game. This cannot always be demonstrated convincingly, because such games
are usually played in privacy, so that clinical information about them has to be
obtained secondhand, and the informant’s bias cannot always be satisfactorily
evaluated. The psychiatric conception of homosexuality, for example, is heavily
skewed, because the more aggressive and successful ‘players’ do not often come
for psychiatric treatment, and the available material mostly concerns the passive
partners.
The games included here are: ‘Let’s You and Him Fight’, ‘Perversion’,
‘Rapo’, ‘Stocking Game’ and ‘Uproar’. In most cases the agent is a woman. This
is because the hard forms of sexual games in which the man is the agent verge
on or constitute criminality, and properly belong in the Underworld section. On
the other side, sexual games and marital games overlap, but the ones described
here are readily available to unmarried people as well as to spouses.