When a women goes into her "well" she is consciously sinking into her unconscious self, into
darkness and diffused feeling. She may suddenly experience a host of unexplained emotions
and vague feelings. She may feel hopeless, thinking she is all alone or unsupported. But soon
after she reaches the bottom, if she feels loved and supported, she will automatically start to
feel better. As suddenly as she may have crashed, she will automatically rise up and again
radiate love in her relationships.
A woman's ability to give and receive love in her relationships is generally a reflection of how
she is feeling about herself. When she is not feeling as good about herself, she is unable to be
as accepting and appreciative of her partner. At her down times, she tends to be overwhelmed
or more emotionally reactive. When her wave hits bottom she is more vulnerable and needs
more love. It is crucial that her partner understand what she needs at these times, otherwise he
may make unreasonable demands.
HOW MEN REACT TO THE WAVE
When a man loves a woman she begins to shine with love and fulfillment. Most men naively
expect that shine to last forever. But to expect her loving nature to be constant is like expecting
the weather never to change and the sun to shine all the time. Life is filled with rhythms-day
and night, hot and cold, summer and winter, spring and fall, cloudy and clear. Likewise in a
relationship, men and women have their own rhythms and cycles. Men pull back and then get
close, while women rise and fall in their ability to love themselves and others.
A man assumes that her sudden change of mood is based solely on his behavior. When she is
happy he takes credit, but when she is unhappy he also feels responsible. He may feel
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