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Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus

this way as children, so we have to do it for ourselves. 
 
How Your Post Affects You Today 
 
Certainly you've had the experience of feeling gripped by negative emotions. These are some 
common ways our unresolved emotions from childhood may affect us today as we encounter 
the stresses of being adults: 
 
1. When something has been frustrating, we remain stuck feeling angry and annoyed, even 
when our adult self says we should feel calm, loving, and peaceful. 
 
2. When something has been disappointing, we remain stuck feeling sad and hurt, even when 
our adult self says we should feel enthusiastic, happy, and hopeful. 
 
3. When something has been upsetting, we remain stuck feeling afraid and worried, even when 
our adult self says we should feel assured, confident, and grateful. 
 
4. When something has been embarrassing, we remain stuck feeling sorry and ashamed, even 
when out adult self says we should feel secure, good, and wonderful. 
 
Silencing Your Feelings Through Addictions 
 
As adults we generally try to control these negative emotions by avoiding them. Our addictions 
can be used to silence the painful cries of our feelings and unfulfilled needs. After a glass of 
wine, the pain is gone for a moment. But it will come back again and again. 
 
Ironically, the very act of avoiding our negative emotions gives them the power to control our 
lives. By learning to listen to and nurture our inner emotions, they gradually lose their grip. 


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When you are very upset, it certainly is not possible to communicate as effectively as you want 

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