encouragement that he was good enough for her, and then he could feel how much he cared.
Martians Need Love Too
Just as women are sensitive to feeling rejected when they don't get the attention they need, men
are sensitive to feeling that they have failed when a woman talks about problems. This is why
it is so hard for him to listen sometimes. He wants to be her hero. When she is disappointed or
unhappy over anything, he feels like a failure. Her unhappiness confirms his deepest fear: he is
just not good enough. Many women today don't realize how vulnerable men are and how much
they need love too. Love helps him to know that he is enough to fulfil others.
A young boy who is fortunate enough to see his father succeed in fulfilling his mother enters
relationships as an adult with a rare confidence that he can succeed in fulfilling his partner. He
is not terrified of commitment because he knows he can deliver. He also knows that when he
doesn't deliver he is still adequate and still deserves love and appreciation for doing his best.
He does not condemn himself because he knows he is not perfect and that he is always doing
his best and his best is good enough. He is able to apologize for his mistakes because he
expects forgiveness, love, and appreciation for doing his best.
He knows that everyone makes mistakes. He saw his father make mistakes and continue to love
himself. He witnessed his mother loving and forgiving his father through all his mistakes. He
felt her trust and encouragement, even though at times his father had disappointed her.
Many men did not have successful role models while they were growing up. For them staying
in love, getting married, and having a family is as difficult as flying a jumbo jet without any
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