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85. 
Have a Family Mealtime  
One of the many great family traditions my wonderful mother created fro us when I was growing up was having 
a family meal every day. No matter what activities we had on the go, my father, my brother and I were duty – 
bound to come home for a dinner, where we could all reconnect and share our stories about the day that was 
drawing to a close. 
My dad would often go around the dinner table and ask us to share one new thing we had learned. Or he 
would pull out a newspaper clipping he had tucked away in his shirt pocket and engage us in a lively discussion 
relating to the story. The special tradition of a daily family meal brought our family closer and gave me many 
happy memories. It is a tradition I have now brought into my own family life and one I hope my children will 
continue. 
Your family meal does not have to be dinner. We live in busy times. We have endless personal 
commitments, our children have soccer practices, piano lessons and ballet classes, which might make it difficult 
to have a quiet meal in the early evening hours. Your family meal could take place over breakfast or lunch if 
your schedule allows for it. It might even be a quick snack of milk and cookies at the very end of the day. The 
important thing is that you find some time every day to “break bread” with those you love most and consistently 
work at building a richer, more meaningful family life. 

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86. 
Become an Imposter  
Research has shown that the way you act influences the thoughts you think. If you look to the ground, slouch 
over and generally model yourself physically after a depressed person, you will eventually start to feel 
depressed. If, on the other hand, you smile and laugh and stand upright with your head held high, you will soon 
find that you feel much better, even though you may not have been in a great mood to begin with. 
Using this information, you can start to “fake it till you make it.” In other words, you can pretend to be 
the kind of person you wish to be. By consistently acting as a highly enthusiastic person might or as a truly 
confident person would, you will eventually take on these personal attributes. 
The power of the “act like that which you most wish to become” technique was demonstrated by a study 
at Stanford University in which a team of psychologists took a group of emotionally secure college students and 
randomly separated them into two groups within a simulated prison setting. The first group was instructed to act 
like prison guards while the second group was told to the group members was affected so dramatically by this 
experiment that the psychologists were forced to end it after only six days. The “inmates” had become severely 
depressed, hysterical and suffered from crying bouts while the “guards” behaved cruelly and uncaringly. As this 
study confirms, the “acting as if” technique is a highly effective way to modify your behavior and transform 
yourself into the person you plan to be. 

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