Secrets of the Millionaire Mind

WEALTH PRINCIPLE:
If your motivation for acquiring money or success 
comes from a nonsupportive root such as fear, 
anger, or the need to “prove” yourself, your money 
will never bring you happiness. 
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Why? Because you can’t solve any of these issues with 
money. Take fear, for instance. During my seminars I ask the 
audience, “How many of you would cite fear as your primary 
motivation for success?” Not many people put up their hand. 
However, then I ask, “How many of you would cite security as 
one of your main motivators for success?” Almost everyone 
puts up his or her hand. But get this—security and fear are 
both motivated by the same thing. Seeking security comes from 
insecurity, which is based in fear.
So, will more money dissolve the fear? You wish! But the 
answer is absolutely not. Why? Because money is not the root 
of the problem; fear is. What’s even worse is that fear is not 
just a problem, it’s a habit. Therefore, making more money will 
only change the kind of fear we have. When we were broke, 
we were most likely afraid we’d never make it or never have 
enough. Once we make it, however, our fear usually changes 
to “What if I lose what I’ve made?” or “Every-one’s going to 
want what I have” or “I’m going to get creamed in taxes.” In 
short, until we get to the root of this issue and dissolve the 
fear, no amount of money will help.
Of course, given a choice, most of us would rather worry 
about having money and losing it than not having money at all, 
but neither are overly enlightened ways to live.
As with those of us driven by fear, many people are moti-
vated to achieve financial success to prove they are “good 
enough.” We’ll cover this challenge in detail in Part II of this 
book, but for now, just realize that no amount of money can 
ever make you good enough. Money can’t make you some-
thing you already are. Again, as with fear, the “always having 
to prove yourself ” issue becomes your habitual way of living. 
You don’t even recognize it’s running you. You call your-

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self a high achiever, a hard driver, determined, and all these 
traits are fine. The only question is why? What is the root 
engine that drives all this?
For people who are driven to prove they are good enough, 
no amount of money can ease the pain of that inner wound 
that makes everything and everyone in their life “not enough.” 
No amount of money, or anything else for that matter, will 
ever be enough for people who feel they are not good enough 
themselves.
Again, it’s all about you. Remember, your inner world re-
flects your outer world. If you believe you are not enough, you 
will validate that belief and create the reality that you don’t 
have enough. On the other hand, if you believe you are plenty, 
you will validate that belief and create plenty of abundance. 
Why? Because “plenty” will be your root, which will then 
become your natural way of being.
By unlinking your money motivation from anger, fear, and 
the need to prove yourself, you can install new links for 
earning your money through purpose, contribution, and joy. That 
way, you’ll never have to get rid of your money to be happy.
Being a rebel or the opposite of your parents is not always a 
problem. To the contrary, if you were a rebel (often the case 
with second-born children) and your folks had poor money 
habits, it’s probably a good thing that you are their opposite. 
On the other hand, if your parents were successful and you’re 
rebelling against them, you could be in for serious financial 
difficulties.
Either way, what’s important is to recognize how your way 
of being relates to one or both of your parents in the arena of 
money.

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