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The responsibility falls predominantly upon their shoulders.
Mothers feel a pressure to know what they’re doing because
they are the ones who are expected to be able to soothe their
baby when no one else can.
A New Mom’s Feelings of Inadequacy
Aye, aye, aaaaaye! Am I really ready for this?
Mothering a baby is a magnificent experience, but it’s neither
automatic nor instinctive. Unless you’ve spent lots of time baby-sitting or
helping with younger siblings, don’t be surprised if your new baby
makes you feel you need six arms—like a Hindu deity. For most women,
mothering their newborn is the toughest job they’ve ever had!
After talking to thousands of new mothers, I’ve made an “Aye, Aye,
Aye” list of the top ten stresses that can undermine a new mom’s self-
confidence—and make even a goddess start to crumble:
1. Intense fatigue
2. Inexperience
3. Isolation from loving family and friends

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4. Insufficient isolation from intrusive family and friends
5. Inconsolable crying (the baby’s, that is)
6. Irritating arguments with your spouse
7. Instant loss of job income and gratification
8. Insecurity about your body
9. Instability of your hormones
10. Indelible barf stains on every piece of clothing you own
Of course, these problems pale when compared to the vivid joy and
feeling of purpose your baby brings into your life. However, new
mothers enter a vulnerable psychological space after giving birth, and
fatigue and fear can even further distort your perceptions. You’re in the
midst of one of life’s most intense experiences and, particularly if you
have a colicky baby, waves of anxiety and depression may repeatedly
wash over you during these initial months. (For more on postpartum
depression, see
Appendix B
.)
Fortunately, the pressures you feel today will soon melt into a warm
love that will probably be more powerful and profound than any other
you have ever felt. In the meantime, please be tolerant of yourself, your
husband, and, especially, your baby.