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Toddler-ese—It’s Better Than Magic … It’s
Real!
Clare, a Toddler-ese fluent mom, said, “There are
rare occasions when nothing settles my raging two-
year-old, but my 95 percent success rate with the
Fast-Food Rule and Toddler-ese is nothing short of
amazing!”
Toddler-ese is better than magic—it’s real and it works! It helps
children feel cared about and understood. And when you combine
Toddler-ese with the Fast-Food Rule, you will be able to prevent up
to 90 percent of tantrums before they even happen and you’ll settle
more than 50 percent of the meltdowns that do occur … in seconds!
(You’ll be able to quickly handle the other 50 percent of tantrums
by using the great skills taught in
Chapter 8
.)
Sound too good to be true? Fortunately, it’s not. In fact, most parents
who try Toddler-ese usually see major improvements in their child’s
behavior in just days.

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Why Do Loving Words Often Flop with Fussy
Tots?
A pair of two-year-olds are fighting over a ball. Shelby,
the mom of one boy, kneels down, and sweetly says,
“Billy, Mommy knows you want the ball and you’re really
mad, but it’s John’s turn and we have to share. Okay?
Remember, we talked about sharing yesterday? You’ll get
a turn, I promise, but first it’s John’s turn. Okay?”
Would you be shocked if I told you that Shelby’s wild
toddler totally ignored her gentle words and lunged at the
ball, scratching his friend’s face and shrieking, “Mine!
Mine!”
Most parents are taught to answer their toddler’s screams with calm,
quiet tones. It sounds kind. It sounds reasonable. Trouble is, it doesn’t
usually work very well.
A calm voice is great when kids are happy. But it often flops when
they’re upset because:
• They can’t “hear” well. Remember, strong feelings zap the
brain’s language center. Crying kids see our lips moving, but our
words sound jumbled to them, like gobbledygook.
• They feel misunderstood. Calmly refusing your tot the thing
she’s begging for makes her think you don’t understand how
much she wants it! So what does she do next? Blasts her message
—louder and harder—to get the point across! Hmmm. Daddy
doesn’t “get it!” I better yell so he knows exactly how I feel!

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Shelby got steamrolled because her sentences were too long, complex,
and emotionally flat. She would have been much more successful had
she delivered her message in Toddler-ese.