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look forward to. “You say, ‘No, no, no!’ You love the park
and don’t want to leave. But Daddy is waiting. So let’s do
this. You can put a little more sand in your pail before we
leave. Should you take one more minute to put sand in, or
two?” Billy quickly said, “Two!” To make it even more
fun, Samantha played the boob a little to let Billy feel like
an even bigger winner. She said “What!? Two minutes! No
way! One is plenty. Okay, you win. You always win me.
You can have two more minutes. Then as soon as we get
home, we can play ball.… I bet I can throw the ball so fast
you’ll never catch it! Is that a deal?”
Remember, when your child keeps his part of the compromise, always
reward him with a tiny time-in (like a hug, some praise, gossip, a bit of

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play) or playing the boob.
However, if your child doesn’t cooperate (or if you have no time for
respectful listening and little compromises), then it’s time for a mild
consequence like clap-growl or kind ignoring.
Kind Ignoring.
Since annoying acts are yellow-light behaviors (“I
don’t like that.”) not red-light ones (“Stop now!”), they can usually be
handled with just a little “cold shoulder.”
Here’s how you might put all these steps together for an annoying
behavior, like whining:
“You really, really, really want a cookie. But that whiny
voice hurts my ears. So Mommy has to go away for a
second. But as soon as you use your ‘happy’ voice, I’ll
come right back and you can tell me what you want.”
Then turn your back and pretend to be busy doing something on the
other side of the room (don’t look back). Ignore any increase in whining,
but as soon as your little friend uses his nice voice, reward him by
immediately returning and offering a cheerful comment: “That’s the
voice my ears like!” Then you can choose what to offer: 1) a cookie, 2) a
cookie, only after he picks up his toys, 3) respectful sympathy but no
more cookies for now.
If, however, the kind ignoring doesn’t work and the annoying
behaviors cross the line into unbearable, that’s when you need to count
to three and use a “take-control” consequence like time-out or giving a
fine.