two more minutes. Your choice, sweetheart, fun football
at home or two minutes here?”
If defiance continues, it’s time for a consequence:
Mild Consequence.
For mild defiance, do a clap-growl or connect
with respect plus kind ignoring.
Arianna found herself constantly having to nag three-
year-old Morgan to get ready for school. When she
learned The Happiest Toddler approach, she decided to
give it a try. The next time her daughter refused to put on
her shoes, Arianna responded by connecting with respect
and then adding a little kind ignoring: “You say, ‘No, no,
no! No shoes!’ I know you don’t want to put them on,
honey, but you know what no shoes means: no play
outside. So Mommy will be right back to see if you’re
ready for your shoes. And then we can also eat your
crunchy cereal.”
Arianna turned her back for twenty seconds and
pretended to be straightening up some papers at the other
end of the room. She then returned and repeated, “Come
on, sweetheart. Let’s put on shoes so you can eat your
crunchies and play!” Morgan protested, “No, I want my
crunchies now!”
Then her mom did a very smart thing. Rather than
getting into a fight, she tried the technique of putting her
“on hold” (see
Put Annoying Behavior “On Hold” … with
Patience-Stretching
). Arianna said, “Okay, honey, you
win. Here are your crunchies.” But just as she was putting
the cereal on the table she abruptly stopped and said,
“Wait! Wait! I almost forgot. Where are your shoes, you
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