The Mountain Is You
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HOW TO RESOLVE THIS
Work on building a circle of people who support and inspire you, who have similar goals and enjoy spending time with you. You should leave a get- together feeling ener-gized and inspired, not exhausted and angry. It takes time to find your group of friends, and you may not discover that all at once. It could start with offering to take someone you admire out for coffee, or reaching out to do something with a person with whom you’d like to reconnect. Slowly but genuinely rebuild your connections, and then foster and care for them as much as you can. W O R R Y I N G A B O U T I R R AT I O N A L F E A R S A N D L E A S T L I K E LY C I R C U M S TA N C E S Another very common way that people sabotage without realizing is by preoccupying themselves with fears of worst-case scenarios. You’re probably familiar with this, at least to some degree: You have a weird or highly unlikely thought that evokes a deep sense of dread, fear, and series of “doomsday” scenarios in your head. You then keep coming back to it to the point that it even controls some part of your life. Irrational fears, especially the kind that are least likely to become reality, are often what we project real fears onto. 56 BRIANNA WIEST THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU 57 These irrational fears are safe, because deep down we know they aren’t going to happen. They are placeholders, a way for us to express the feeling we really have onto something we know isn’t going to happen. When you find yourself in a fear cycle, constantly repeating some strange, random, or unimportant one-off circumstance or situation that has a very low probability of becoming reality, ask yourself if you have any feelings about something related that is actually valid. For example, if you get anxious about being a passenger in a car, consider if your fear is of “moving forward” or being “out of control.” Or, if you’re anxious about being fired from your job, the fear might really be the idea that you aren’t worthy of another job or being humiliated by a higher-up. |
