The Mountain Is You
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The Mountain is You
WHAT IS A LOGICAL LAPSE?
Think of something that you aren’t afraid of, maybe some- thing that other people might find scary. Maybe you aren’t afraid of flying in an airplane. Many people are. Maybe you aren’t afraid of being single. Many people are. Maybe you aren’t afraid of commitment. Many people are. Surely you can think of at least one thing in your life that you are truly unafraid of. Why aren’t you afraid of it? Because you don’t have a log- ical lapse there. You can visualize yourself going on an airplane and suc- cessfully getting off without freaking out. You can visu- alize yourself being happily single or happily committed. Even if the worst were to happen, you can think a situation through in its entirety, from exposition to climax to conclu- sion. You know what you would do. You have a plan. When you experience a logical lapse, the climax becomes the conclusion. You imagine a situation, you figure that 127 THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU 126 BRIANNA WIEST you would panic, and then because you’re scared, you never think through the rest of the scenario. You never think about how you’d get through it, what you’d do to respond, and how you’d eventually move on with your life afterwards. If you were able to do this, you wouldn’t be scared of it, because you wouldn’t think it had the power to “end” you. This is why exposure is the most common treatment for irrational fear. By reintroducing the stressor into your life in a safe way, you are able to reestablish a line of thinking that is healthier and calmer. Basically, you prove to your- self that you will be okay, even if something scary does happen (which most of the time it does not). Either way, mental strength is not just hoping that noth- ing ever goes wrong. It is believing that we have the ca- pacity to handle it if it does. Maybe you don’t have that self-belief yet. That’s okay. It’s not something you’re born with; it’s something you build slowly and over time. It’s something you develop with practice, by addressing small problems, and then learning healthy coping mechanisms and effective reasoning skills. The thing is that there are millions of scary things that can happen to us in our lives. That is true for everyone. When we are hung up on one scary thing over another, it’s not because it’s a more imminent or likely threat; it’s because we are less convinced we would be able to respond to it. 129 THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU 128 BRIANNA WIEST To heal, we don’t need to avoid it. We need to develop logic to see situations for what they are and respond ap- propriately to them. So often in life, our biggest anxiety comes not from what’s actually happening, but how we think about what is happen- ing. In that, we reclaim our emotional freedom and power. FA U LT Y I N F E R E N C E S A R E H O L D I N G Y O U B A C K F R O M S U C C E S S If you’re familiar with body typing, you’ll probably be fa- miliar with the terms endomorph, mesomorph, and ecto- morph. Though everyone actually falls somewhere within the spectrum of these (meaning that everyone has varying degrees of each), the traits you default to are typically your primary body type. 10 If you’ve studied these types, you’ll know that endomor- phic bodies are often associated with increased fat reten- tion. The assumption here is that these people have the worst metabolisms, but that is false. Endomorphs actually have the best metabolisms of anyone. They are alive today because their ancestors adequately adapted to survive. Their metabolisms do precisely what they were intended to do: store fat for later use. Something similar happens with highly intelligent people who experience high levels of anxiety. You assume that 129 THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU 128 BRIANNA WIEST because these people are smart, they would be able to use logic to disrupt illogical fears. (Logical lapses, or an in- ability to adequately reason, often generate anxiety.) However, their brains are doing exactly what they were meant to do, which is to piece together unrelated stimuli and identify potential threats. Highly intelligent people have a psychological function others do not, which is the ability to infer. They can ex- tract meaning and understanding from things that others simply take at face value. This is why people who have ex- tremely high IQs often struggle with basic things such as social skills or driving a car. Where others see the world as one-dimensional, the highly intelligent see it as three-di- mensional. They think more deeply than is often neces- sary. This gives them their ability to create, understand, strategize, and invent. In the same way that the endomorph’s excellent metabo- lism can work against them, so too can a highly intelligent person’s brain. This is because at times, they make some- thing called “faulty inferences,” which are when fallacies, biases, and incorrect assumptions are made from valid evidence. What’s happening in your brain when you’re very anx- ious is that you’re taking an often innocuous stimulus and extracting some kind of meaning or prediction from it. When you’re scared, your brain is working in overdrive to 131 THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU 130 BRIANNA WIEST identify the thing that can potentially hurt you and then creatively come up with ways to completely avoid that ex- perience. The smarter you are, the better you become at this. However, the more you avoid a fear, the more intense it becomes. Download 1.1 Mb. Do'stlaringiz bilan baham: |
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