What do you think? What are the pros and cons of all-girl or all-boy families?

4. What do/did you have to do?
Children with additional needs
In families with children with additional needs, consistent rules send the message that everyone is equal. For example, if your family rule is that you all speak nicely to each other, your child with additional needs should follow this rule just like your typically developing children.
Some children with additional needs might need help to understand and remember rules.Some rules might apply to the whole family, whereas others might apply just to younger children or to teenagers. As children get older and more mature, the rules can ‘grow’ along with them.
What to do when children don’t follow the rules. When children break the rules, you might choose simply to remind them of the rules and give them another chance. But it will ultimately be more effective to use consequences for breaking rules. It’s best to talk as a family about consequences. This can ensure that everyone understands and agrees on the consequences. And if everyone understands and agrees, it can be easier to put consequences into action when children break the rules.
5.Write a list of house rules for the ideal family.
Family rules are positive statements about how your family wants to look after and treat its members. Rules help: children and teenagers learn what behaviour is and isn’t OK in your family adults be consistent in the way they behave towards children and teenagers. Rules can help everyone in your family get along better. They make family life more positive and peaceful. What do good family rules look like?Good family rules guide children’s behaviour in a positive way. They say exactly what behaviour you expect – for example, ‘We say “please” when we ask for something’
are easy for children to understand – for example, ‘Use a quiet voice inside the house’ tell children what to do, rather than what not to do – for example, ‘Put your clothes away’ rather than ‘Don’t be messy’. Rules that tell your children what not to do are OK sometimes. They’re best when it’s difficult to explain what to do instead – for example, ‘Don’t ask for things in the supermarket’ or ‘Don’t get in a car with a driver who has been drinking’.A short list of positive family rules is better than a long one, especially for younger children. Every family’s rules will be different. Your family rules will be influenced by your beliefs and values, your situation and your child’s maturity and needs.
What to make rules about Choose the most important things to make rules about. This might include rules about: physical behaviour towards each other – for example, ‘Be gentle with each other’ safety – for example, ‘Wear your seatbelt in the car’ manners – for example, ‘We wait until others have finished talking before we talk’ daily routines – for example, ‘We take turns setting the table each night’ respect for each other – for example, ‘Knock before going into each other’s rooms’. Your children will learn that rules are a part of life, and that there are rules for different places and parts of life, like school, public transport and sport. Making and following family rules can help your children respect the rules in other places too. Who to involve in making the rules It’s important to involve all members of the family as much as possible when you’re making family rules.
Children as young as three can be part of talking about the rules. As children get older, they can be more involved in deciding what the rules should be.
When you involve children and teenagers in making the rules, it helps them understand and accept the rules and why your family needs them. This means they’re more likely to see the rules as fair and stick to them.
For older children and teenagers, being involved in making the rules can also give them the chance to take responsibility for their own behaviour.

It can help to write down the rules and display them somewhere everyone can see them. This helps make them clear, and it can also prevent arguments about what is or isn’t allowed. For younger children you can make or draw pictures that show the rules.

When to review or change the rules It’s good to go over your family rules from time to time to check how they’re working. This can also be a good way to remind everyone of the most important rules.
And there will be times when your rules need to change, as your children get older or your family situation changes. For example, you might extend a school-age child’s bedtime or a teenage child’s curfew. Or if one parent’s work arrangements change, you might make some new or different rules about helping with household chores.
Just like when you make new rules, it’s good to involve children in making changes to rules. Following the rules: what to expect from children of different ages and abilities