Dark Psychology: The Practical Uses and Best Defenses of Psychological Warfare in Everyday Life How to Detect and Defend Against Manipulation, Deception, Dark Persuasion, and Covert nlp

partner become compliant. She has to do this without coming to him
outright and saying something like “vacuum the living room or else
there will be no sex tonight”. Although that has been known to
happen in certain homes, it would surely backfire especially if you
are dealing with people who have a natural dislike for taking
instructions from others no matter how well it is phrased. So instead,
she bids her time. When she finds him in the middle of doing a
random chore, she pounces on him. Giving him sweet accolades
and saying things like how she finds him so [emphasis on the “s”]
attractive when he is doing [whatever it is she finds him doing] and
then she indulges his sexual craving for her.
The impact of this tactic is even greater if he normally has to
“work” to get her this excited. If she does this consistently, he
subconsciously gets the message that him doing home chores could
equal him having good sex later. Over time, he becomes
programmed to doing the chores he would naturally have declined to
do because of the sexual motivation his partner offers.
This scenario is seemingly harmless. But if you observe
closely, dark psychology was used here. The fella was manipulated
into doing things albeit willingly for his partner just for sex. She
understood his weakness and played it to her strength to get what
she wants. The good thing is that in this case, everyone goes away
happy. Because the woman gets the valuable contribution she needs
from her partner and the man gets the sex he craves with the woman

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he craves. But things are not always this mutually beneficial when
dark psychology is involved. This can get really dark for the victim.
Let us look at this other couple.
I would call this new couple Dave and Maya. Dave and Maya have
very contrasting personalities. Dave is a home buddy and Maya is a
vivacious extrovert with lots of friends. On the surface, it would seem
that their difference in personalities complimented each other
perfectly. This was until Dave felt the need to exert more control over
Maya. But he knows (probably because he has already tried) that he
can't use outright force to get what he wants. So, he begins a
campaign to get Maya under his thumb. He starts by nitpicking little
details about her like her choice in clothing, makeup, hair and even
makes snide comments about her weight under the guise of love of
course. 
This starts affecting her confidence and when she brings up her
friends, he uses flimsy incidents to illustrate and back up his theory
about some fictional feud between them [things like they are jealous
of you usually works]. These little seeds of doubts grow and fully
blossom into a wedge that drives Maya and her friends further apart.
With no friends and poor esteem issues thanks to her new-found low
confidence, she is made to feel like Dave is the only person who
truly cares about her and accepts her for who she is. This drives her
to want to do everything she can to please Dave thus putting her
exactly where he wants her to be…under his thumb and fully under
his control. 
In the two cases I used as an illustration, we see instances where
relationships that are supposed to be about the two persons involved
becomes a channel to fulfill the desires of one partner through
manipulation and deception. Both relationships started out with good
intentions and while the end result of the former proved to be a
satisfactory situation for both parties, in the later story, the reverse is
the case. The similarities here is that all victims did what they did out
of their feelings for their partners. It therefore goes on to say that our
desires to be loved can leave us vulnerable. It can be manipulated
and exploited for the gains of others. 

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