Dark Psychology: The Practical Uses and Best Defenses of Psychological Warfare in Everyday Life How to Detect and Defend Against Manipulation, Deception, Dark Persuasion, and Covert nlp

EMPLOY THE BEST PRACTICES IN ALL YOUR
DEALINGS
Good, better, best.
Never let it rest.
Until your good is better and your better best.
St. Jerome
 
The Christians have a saying, “you reap what you sow”. It is
more than just a biblical phrase. It encapsulates the natural order of
things. Of course, we know that bad things sometimes happen to
very good people and vice versa. But, never believe for one moment
that people do not get their comeuppance. Because they do. When
you have been treated badly in life, you naturally want to shut
yourself in and close yourself off to people. And if you have to deal
with people, you want to always position yourself where you would
have the upper hand. The problem with this kind of thinking is that
because of your experiences, you become a victim who has made
the decision [at least on a subconscious level] to make other people
victims.
You may be able to find temporary pleasure in dealing the
same card that other people have dealt you to innocent people but
the damage in the long run can be devastating. Plus, you could end
up setting off a chain of events with a domino effect that could come
back to you. Even when you are presented with the opportunity,
don’t take it. Instead, turn the situation around by choosing to end
the pain cycle with you. As someone who has been here, I can tell
you that it is not easy. As a teenager, I was painfully shy. I found it
difficult to talk to people. Even when I was with people like my
parents and sibling who I have known nearly all my life, I didn’t crawl
out of my shell entirely. But all that changed when I met Debbie. She
was my high school dream and I remember being painfully in love
with her.

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It took a lot of mental energy to finally work up the courage to
ask her out. And when I did, I was even more blown away by the fact
that she said yes. I was walking on sunshine for the next 3 months
until I found out that I was just a bet. Yes, I know it sounds
remarkably like that teen movie that was a hit back in the day except
this time, I was the victim. It hurt more than words can say and that
was not the worst part. I was humiliated the worst way a person like
me can be. You know that dream we all have where you are
standing on stage in front of the whole school and you suddenly find
yourself naked? This was way worse than that.
I am not sure how I was able to get through that month in
school much less the entire school year, but I did. Fast forward to my
post-college years, I met Debbie again. Let us just say I was in a
more advantageous position and I had the option of using my office
to make her life difficult, but I chose not to. Initially, she interpreted
this to mean I still had feelings for her, and she tried to work that to
her advantage. I politely informed her that I was just doing my job. If I
had held on to the feelings that I had for her in the past, I would have
reacted differently. It was either she would have been successful in
her attempts to seduce me or I would have been seduced into using
the powers that my position offered to "punish" her. But I did neither.
And in that decision, I found true freedom.
Life has a funny way of working itself out. Don’t take it on
yourself to be the dispenser of justice. Instead, arm yourself with the
lessons you have learnt and use it to your advantage. Like St,
Jerome said in the introductory quote, be your very best…even when
you are put to the test.

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