race, achieves a goal, or solves a problem.
Instead of being goal oriented, women are relationship oriented; they are more concerned with
expressing their goodness, love, and caring. Two Martians go to lunch to discuss a project or
business goal; they have a problem to solve. In addition, Martians view going to a restaurant as
an efficient way to approach food: no shopping, no cooking, and no washing dishes. For
Venusians, going to lunch is an opportunity to nurture a relationship, for both giving support
to and receiving support from a friend. Women's restaurant talk can be very open and intimate,
almost like the dialogue that occurs between therapist and patient.
On Venus, everyone studies psychology and has at least a master's degree in counseling. They
are very involved in personal growth, spirituality, and everything that can nurture life, healing,
and growth. Venus is covered with parks, organic gardens, shopping centers, and restaurants.
Venusians are very intuitive. They have developed this ability through centuries of
anticipating the needs of others. They pride themselves in being considerate of the needs and
feelings of others. A sign of great love is to offer help and assistance to another Venusian
without being asked.
Because proving one's competence is not as important to a Venusian, offering help is not
offensive, and needing help is not a sign of weakness. A man, however, may feel offended
because when a woman offers advice he doesn't feel she mists his ability to do it himself.
A woman has no conception of this male sensitivity because for her it is another feather in her
hat if someone offers to help her. It makes her feel loved and cherished. But offering help to a
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