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know about. As I now moved closer to my new goal, the milk, my grumbles went away. I 
started feeling my love for my wife and my willingness to support. I started feeling like the 
good guy. Believe me, I liked that feeling. 
 
By the time I was in the store, I was happy to be getting the milk. When my hand reached the 
bottle, I had achieved my new goal. Achievement always makes men feel good. I playfully 
picked up the bottle in my right hand and turned around with a look of pride that said "Hey. 
look at me. I'm getting the milk for my wife. I go to the store and get some milk. I am one of 
those great generous guys. What a guy." 
 
When I returned with the milk, she was happy to see me. She gave me a big hug and said, 
"Thank you so much. I'm so glad I didn't have to get dressed." 
 
If she had ignored me, I probably would have resented her. Next time she asked me to buy the 
milk I would have probably grumbled even more. But she didn't ignore me, she gave me lots of 
love. 
 
I watched my reaction and heard myself think, What a wonderful wife I have. Even after I was 

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so resistant and grumbly she is still appreciating me. 
 
The next time she asked me to buy the milk, I grumbled less. When I returned she was again 
appreciative. The third time, automatically I said, "Sure." 
 
Then a week later, I noticed that she was low on milk. I offered to get it. She said she was 
already going to the store. To my surprise a part of me was disappointed! I wanted to get the 
milk. Her love had programmed me to say yes. Even to this day whenever she asks me to go to 
the store and get milk a part of me happily says yes.