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she feels entitled to that support. He does not assume she has given less. Quite the contrary, he


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Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus

she feels entitled to that support. He does not assume she has given less. Quite the contrary, he 
assumes she must be giving more or at least as much as he is, and that is why she feels good 


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about asking. 
 
6. Question. A woman may feel, "When I ask for support, I am afraid to be brief. I want to 
explain why I need his help. I don't want to appear demanding. " 
 
Answer: When a man hears a request from his partner, he trusts she has good reasons for 
asking. If she gives him a lot of reasons why he should fulfill her request, he feels as though he 
can't say no, and if he can't say no then he feels manipulated or taken for granted. Let him give 
you a gift instead of taking his support for granted. 
 
If he needs to understand more he will ask why. Then it is OK to give reasons. Even when he 
asks, be careful not to be too lengthy. Give one, or at most, two reasons. If he still needs more 
information, he'll let you know. 
 
STEP 2: PRACTICE ASKING FOR MORE 
(EVEN WHEN YOU KNOW HE MAY SAY NO) 
 
Before attempting to ask a man for more, make sure he feels appreciated for what he is already 
giving. By continuing to ask for his support without expecting him to do more than he has been 
doing he will feel not only appreciated but also accepted. 
 
When he is used to hearing you ask for his support without wanting more, he feels loved in 
your presence. He feels he doesn't have to change to get your love. At this point he will be 
willing to change and stretch his ability to support you. At this point you can risk asking for 
more without giving him the message that he is not good enough. 

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