HOW A MAN'S PAST MAY AFFECT HIS INTIMACY CYCLE
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This natural cycle in a man may already be obstructed from his childhood. He may be afraid to
pull away because he witnessed his mother's disapproval of his father's emotional distancing.
Such a man may not even know that he needs to pull away. He may unconsciously create
arguments to justify pulling away.
This kind of man naturally develops more of his feminine side but at the expense of
suppressing some of his masculine power. He is a sensitive man. He tries hard to please and be
loving but loses part of his masculine self in the process. He feels guilty pulling away. Without
knowing what has happened he loses his desire, power, and passion; he becomes passive or
overly dependent.
He may be afraid to be alone or to go into his cave. He may think he doesn't like being alone
because deep inside he is afraid of losing love. He has already experienced in childhood his
mother rejecting his father or directly rejecting him.
While some men don't know how to pull away, others don't know how to get close. The macho
man has no problem pulling away. He just can't come back and open up. Deep inside he may
be afraid he is unworthy of love. He is afraid of being close and caring a lot. He does not have a
picture of how welcomed he would be if he got closer. Both the sensitive male and the macho
male are missing a positive picture or experience of their natural intimacy cycle.
Understanding this male intimacy cycle is just as important for men as it is for women. Some
men feel guilty needing to spend time in their caves or they may get confused when they start
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