How a Man Can Support a Woman in the Well
A wise man learns to go out of his way to help a woman feel safe to rise and fall. He releases
his judgments and demands and learns how to give the required support. As a result he enjoys
a relationship that increases in love and passion over the years.
He may have to weather a few emotional storms or droughts, but the reward is much greater.
The uninitiated man still suffers from storms and droughts, but because he does not know the
art of loving her through her time in the well, their love stops growing and gradually becomes
repressed.
WHEN SHE'S IN THE WELL AND HE'S IN THE CAVE
Harris said, "I tried everything I learned in the seminar. It was really working. We were so
close. I felt like I was in heaven. Then suddenly my wife, Cathy, started complaining that I
watched too much TV. She started treating me like I was a child. We got in a huge argument. I
don't know what happened. We were doing so well."
This is an example of what can happen when the wave and the rubber band occur around the
same time. After taking the seminar, Harris had succeeded in giving more to his wife and
family than ever. Cathy was delighted. She couldn't believe it. They had become closer than
ever. Her wave was peaking. This lasted for a couple of weeks, and then Harris decided to stay
up late one night and watch TV. His rubber band was starting to droop. He needed to pull away
into his cave.
When he pulled away, Cathy was greatly hurt. Her wave began to crash. She saw his pulling
away as the end of her new experience of intimacy. The previous couple of weeks had been
everything she had wanted, and now she thought she was going to lose it. Ever since she was a
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