FEELINGS ARE IMPORTANT
If a woman is not supported in being unhappy sometimes then she can never truly be happy.
To be genuinely happy requires dipping down into the well to release, heal, and purify the
emotions. This is a natural and healthy process.
If we are to feel the positive feelings of love, happiness, trust, and gratitude, we periodically
also have to feel anger, sadness, fear, and sorrow. When a woman goes down into her well is
when she can heal these negative emotions.
Men also need to process their negative feelings so that they can then experience their positive
feelings. When a man goes into his cave is a time when he silently feels and processes his
negative feelings. In chapter 11 we will explore a technique for releasing negative feelings that
works equally well for women and men.
When a woman is on the upswing she can be fulfilled with what she has. But on the
downswing she then will become aware of what she is missing When she is feeling good she is
capable of seeing and responding to the good things in her life. But when she is crashing, her
loving vision becomes cloudy, and she reacts more to what is missing 'm her life.
Just as a glass of water can be viewed as half full or half empty, when a woman is on her way
up she sees the fullness of her life. On the way down she sees the emptiness. Whatever
emptiness she overlooks on the way up comes more into focus when she is on her way down
into her well.
Without learning about how women are like waves men cannot understand or support their
wives. They are confused when things get a lot better on the outside but worse in the
relationship. By remembering this difference a man holds the key to giving his partner the love
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