101. Leave the bathroom seat down.
THE MAGIC OF DOING LITTLE THINGS
It's magic when a man does little things for his woman. It keeps her love tank full and the score
even. When the score is even, or almost even, a woman knows she is loved, which makes her
more trusting and loving in return. When a woman knows she's loved, she can love without
resentment.
Doing little things for a woman is also healing for a man. In fact, those little things will tend to
heal his resentments as well as hers. He begins to feel powerful and effective because she's
getting the caring she needs. Both are then fulfilled.
What a Man Needs
Just as men need to continue doing little things for a woman, she needs to be particularly
attentive to appreciate the little things he does for her. With a smile and a thanks she can let
him know he has scored a point. A man needs this appreciation and encouragement to continue
giving. He needs to feel he can make a difference. Men stop giving when they feel they are
being taken for granted. A woman needs to let him know that what he is doing is appreciated.
This doesn't mean that she has to pretend that everything is now perfectly wonderful because
he has emptied the trash for her. But she can simply notice that he has emptied the trash and
say "thanks." Gradually more love will flow from both sides.
What a Man Needs a Woman to Accept
A woman needs to accept a man's instinctive tendencies to focus all his energies into one big
thing and minimize the importance of the little things. By accepting this inclination, it will not
be as hurtful to her. Rather than resenting him for giving less, she can constructively work with
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