thinking that greater success or more money will help.
For Men: Remember that a woman instinctively does not ask for support when she wants it.
Instead, she expects you to offer it if you love her. Practice offering to support her in little ways.
4. Venusians Say Yes Even When the Score Is Uneven Men don't realize that when they ask for
support, a woman will say yes even if the score is uneven. If they can support their man, they
will. The concept of keeping score is not on her mind. Men have to be careful not to ask for too
much. If she feels she is giving more than she is getting, after a while she will resent that you
do not offer to support her more.
Men mistakenly assume that as long as she says yes to his needs and requests, she is receiving
equally what she wants. He mistakenly assumes the score is even when it isn't.
I remember taking my wife to the movies about once a week for the first two years of our
marriage. One day she became furious with me and said, "We always do what you want to do.
We never do what I want to do."
I was genuinely surprised. I thought that as long as she said yes and continued to say yes that
she was equally happy with the situation. I thought she liked the movies as much as I did.
Occasionally she would suggest to me that the opera was in town or that she would like to go to
the symphony. When we drove by the local playhouse, she would make a remark like "That
looks like fun, let's see that play."
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But then later in the week I would say, "Let's go to this movie, it's got a great review."
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