suddenly afraid to trust love. The painful memories of being rejected begin to surface when we
are faced with trusting and accepting our partner's love.
Whenever we are loving ourselves more or being loved by others, repressed feelings tend to
come up and temporarily overshadow our loving awareness. They come up to be healed and
released. We may suddenly become irritable, defensive, critical, resentful, demanding, numb,
or angry.
Feelings that we could not express in our past suddenly flood our consciousness when we are
safe to feel. Love thaws out our repressed feelings, and gradually these unresolved feelings
begin to surface into our relationship.
It is as though your unresolved feelings wait until you are feeling loved, and then they come up
to be healed. We are all walking around with a bundle of unresolved feelings, the wounds from
our past, that he dormant within us until the time comes when we feel loved. Then, when we
feel safe to be ourselves, our hurt feelings come up.
If we can successfully deal with those feelings, then we feel much better and enliven more of
our creative, loving potential. If, however, we get into a fight and blame our partner instead of
healing our past, we just get upset and then suppress the feelings again.
How Repressed Feelings Come Up
The problem is that repressed feelings don't come up saying "Hi, I am your unresolved feelings
from the past." If your feelings of abandonment or rejection from childhood start coming up,
then you will feel you are being abandoned or rejected by your partner. The pain of the past is
projected onto the present. Things that normally would not be a big deal hurt a lot.
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