made sacrifices for others, then everyone was taken care of. But after doing this for centuries
the Venusians were fired of always caring about one another and sharing everything. They also
were ready for a win/win philosophy.
Similarly, many women today are also tired of giving. They want time off. Time to explore
being themselves. Time to care about themselves first. They want someone to provide
emotional support, someone they don 't 'have to take care of. The Martians fit the bill perfectly.
At this point the Martians were learning to give while the Venusians were now ready to learn
how to receive. After centuries the Venusians and Martians had reached an important stage in
their evolution. The Venusians needed to learn how to receive while the Martians needed to
learn how to give.
This same change commonly takes place in men and women as they mature. In her younger
years, a woman is much more willing to sacrifice and mould herself to fulfil her partner's
needs. In a man's younger years, he is much more self-absorbed and unaware of the needs of
others. As a woman matures she realizes how she may have been giving up herself in order to
please her partner. As a man matures he realizes how he can better serve and respect others.
As a man matures he also learns that he may be giving up himself, but his major change is
becoming more aware of how he can succeed in giving. Likewise, as a woman matures she also
learns new strategies for giving, but her major change tends to be learning to set limits in order
to receive what she wants.
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Giving Up Blame
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