Socio-psychological features of the conflict between spouses of Uzbek families

Socio-psychological features of the conflict between spouses of Uzbek families
Kholmurod KARIMOV,
Associate Professor of the Department of Psychology
Karshi State University


Annotation. The article studies the problem of socio-psychological characteristics of the conflict between spouses in Uzbek families. It deals with the theoretical and practical aspects of the problem, research work carried out by the author on this issue. The studies conducted by the author show that the study of this problem remains very relevant today, and these studies pose important tasks for psychologists.
Keywords: family, couple, interpersonal relationships, love, romance, jealousy, conflict, divorce.

Support for the family by the state, ensuring its stability as the main link in society in all aspects is considered one of the priorities of each country. At present, many organizational, legal, socio-economic measures have been established in Uzbekistan to ensure the stability of families, reduce the number of divorces and conflicts between spouses, preserve the family, and in this regard, legal foundations have been created. Unfortunately, despite this, among young couples there are cases of a light idea of ​​life, not ready to fulfill family responsibilities, not understanding that the family is sacred, divorces among young families for banal reasons are becoming more frequent, innocent children become orphans with living parents and face problems such as orphan hood and alienation from parental care, at a time of age when they most yearn for love and attention from them.

Therefore, reducing the number of divorces between spouses, strengthening the organizational and legal mechanisms for maintaining the unity and stability of families, and further strengthening the reforms carried out in this regard, is an urgent need.
According to classical sources, the problems of the family and family relations have long attracted the most prominent people in society, that is, scientists and sages. At this stage, it is worth highlighting that many scientists, writers and poets, such as Abu Nasr Farabi, Abu Rayhon Beruni, Abu Ali ibn Sina, Mahmud Kashgari, Kaykovus, Alisher Navoi, Rizuddin ibn Fakhriddin, Ahmad Donish and many other great thinkers of the East expressed his instructive advice and instructions on these family and marriage relations, which have social and ideological significance in science to this day.
In the works of scientists and philosophers, the theme of the family and family relations has a significant place. The views of Orient lists emphasize the role of the family in the intellectual and moral development of the individual, the socially oriented and educational functions of parents and close relatives.
Abu Ali ibn Sina, highlighting in his views various and important aspects of family relations, first of all focuses on the head of the family and on the responsible duties facing him - the husband. In his opinion, first of all, the husband should have both theoretical and practical information about educational work in the family. Only then can he become the real head of the family. The author spoke about relations between spouses in a family based on equality, harmony and mutual respect, and said that “a man is the head of the family, he must satisfy all the needs of the family, because this is his primary duty. A woman is a good, worthy companion of a man and the best successor and assistant in raising a child.
In his work “Uy-joy tutish tadbiri”, he lists seventeen characteristics of women. According to him, at first a woman is smart and faithful, modest, noble, tasteful and prudent, moderate, faithful to her husband, obedient, affectionate, gentle, chaste, restrained, gentle and balanced, serious and noble, expressing her opinion with every behavior, she must to be a thrifty woman, with good qualities in her actions, and kind, who could be a balm for her husband in difficult times.
Issues of family and marriage relations have been effectively studied by psychologists in Uzbekistan. In particular, research studies on the socio-psychological problems of the Uzbek family have been deeply studied since the 90s of the last century. Here we can show the research works of such scientists as Morshinina E.A., Shaumarov G.B., Goziev E.G., Dzhabborov A.M., Soginov N.A., Karimova V.M., Umarov B., Akramova F.A., Fayzieva M.Kh., Okhunjonova S.A., Shozhalilov A., Adizova T.M., Usmonov E., et al.
In the works of G.B. Shaumarov, such ethno psychological features of the Uzbek family are noted as the high status of a man, the leading role of a man in the main part of the Uzbek family, the features of communication of a wife, mother-in-law, which directly or indirectly affects the etiology, a stricter hierarchy in the Uzbek family, and so Further. In the author's study, the disagreements that arise between spouses in the family are psychologically analyzed, their main reasons are the professional activities of the married couple, measuring the value of the family, the struggle for leadership positions in it, misunderstanding of each other in psychological characteristics, unwillingness to do household chores, lack of knowledge about sex education, mutual disagreements in the upbringing of children, incompatibility of characters, disagreements in sexual matters, childlessness, jealousy and mistrust.
It is known that the author somehow dealt with the psychology of marital conflict. One of the first such works was a study by N.A. Soginov, who studied the socio-psychological characteristics of satisfaction with marriage in an Uzbek family. According to the research of N.A. Soginov, divorce conflicts in Uzbek families are destructive, and in a prosperous family - creative. In addition, the author reveals a number of other ethno-psychological features of the marriage dispute in the Uzbek family. Although the results of the work of N.A. Soginov are valuable and significant, it should be noted that this issue was not a separate research topic for the author.
In his study, E.G. Goziev also focused on conflicts and family breakups occurring in the family, and their specific reasons are: the mismatch of the characters of the spouses, childlessness, moral and physical mockery of the bride, lack of material support, educational poverty. Excessive tradition in the family and the presence of rituals, addiction to alcohol, jealousy, lack of opportunities for cultural recreation, shows the presence of evil in family ties. Also, getting acquainted with the works of the author in this area, we see that they contain valuable information about the uniqueness of interpersonal relations in the Uzbek family, socio-psychological criteria for family stability.
Family conflicts are one of the factors that negatively affect the strength of families. It should be noted that in public life there are various misunderstandings, conflicts and disagreements between people related to family and marriage relations. Usually, conflict is understood as opposing views, conflicts expressed through intergroup or interpersonal relationships associated with unpleasant emotional experiences. When interpreted from a psychological point of view, it is not the conflicts themselves, but their consequences that have a devastating effect on people. As a result of conflicts in the human psyche, negative emotions arise, such as fear, panic, enmity. If these experiences are strong and last for a long time, a person may develop and intensify a protective reaction.
It is known that interpersonal relations in the family have a complex system, inextricably linked with national-territorial characteristics, and its main element is the relationship between husband and wife. It is known that the relationship of the couple is not even, and over the years these relationships have been tested many times, give cracks and can even break. Unfortunately, it is no secret to anyone that family and marriage relations in Uzbek families have been weakening in recent years, various conflict situations and disagreements are frequent. At the same time, the main factors in the formation of family disputes and their disintegration are the incompatibility of the characters of the spouses, childlessness, the lack of love and affection, the inability to rationally manage the budget, the disorder and disorder of household affairs, shortcomings in economic life, security, jealousy and factors such as distrust, parental interference in marital relations, incompatibility of worldviews and professions, sexual harassment.
Having familiarized ourselves with the scientific literature and based on the results of our study, we considered it necessary to classify below the conflicts that arise in Uzbek families and the reasons for their manifestation. The reasons for the classification of the conflict, the number of participants, the levels of its manifestation, the source of the conflict, the nature of the direction, stages, etc.
Table 1
D isputes between spouses in an Uzbek family differ from disputes in families of representatives of other nationalities (Russians, Ukrainians, etc.). In our studies, Uzbek families differ in that they have their own ethno-psychological characteristics, in which the occurrence of conflicts between spouses is influenced by the characteristics of premarital factors characteristic of the national-cultural environment, that is, sometimes the absence or lack of the opportunity to get to know each other, and there are reasons that arise in a result of the conflict. It was revealed that the parties do not try to understand each other, rely on their parents in his decision, family relations are built on the basis of rudeness and a number of other negative situations. In addition, a number of experiments have shown that family conflicts in many cases can arise due to insufficient attention to each other that is, not “hearing” each other’s desires, different outlooks on life, tight control, ridicule, inattention, problems at work.
Based on the purpose of our study, we came to the conclusion that the study of the factors that give rise to conflicts in marital relations, which is the basis of interpersonal relations in the family, creates the opportunity to provide the necessary conditions for maintaining the stability of interpersonal relations in it.