The 50th Law (with 50 Cent)

The Sexualizer:
They seem charged with sexual energy, in a way that
is refreshingly unrepressed. They have a tendency to mix work with
pleasure, to blur the usual boundaries for when it is appropriate to use
this energy, and you might imagine that this is healthy and natural.
But in truth it is compulsive and comes from a dark place. In their
earliest years such people probably suffered sexual abuse in some way.
This could have been directly physical or something more
psychological, which the parent expressed through looks and touching
that was subtle but inappropriate.
A pattern is deeply set from within and cannot be controlled—they
will tend to see every relationship as potentially sexual. Sex becomes a
means of self-validation, and when they are young, such types can lead
an exciting, promiscuous life, as they will tend to find people to fall
under their spell. But as they get older, any long periods without this
validation can lead to depression and suicide, so they become more
desperate. If they occupy positions of leadership, they will use their
power to get what they want, all under the guise of being natural and
unrepressed. The older they get, the more pathetic and frightening this
becomes. You cannot help or save them from their compulsion, only
save yourself from entanglement with them on any level.
The Pampered Prince/Princess:
They will draw you in with their regal
air. They are calm and ever so slightly imbued with a feeling of
superiority. It is pleasant to meet people who appear confident and
destined to wear a crown. Slowly you might find yourself doing favors
for them, working extra hard for no pay, and not really understanding
how or why. Somehow they express the need to be taken care of, and
they are masters at getting others to pamper them. In childhood, their
parents indulged them in their slightest whim and protected them
from any kind of harsh intrusion from the outside world. There are
also some children who incite this behavior in their parents by acting
especially helpless. Whatever the cause, as adults their greatest desire

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is to replicate this early pampering. It remains their lost paradise. You
will notice often that when they don’t get what they want, they display
baby-like behavior, pouting, or even tantrums.
This is certainly the pattern for all of their intimate relationships,
and unless you have a deep need to pamper others, you will find the
relationship maddening, always on their terms. They are not equipped
to handle the harsh aspects of adult life and either manipulate a person
into the pampering role or resort to drinking and drugs to soothe
themselves. If you feel guilty for not helping them, it means you are
hooked and should look to take care of yourself instead.