The 50th Law (with 50 Cent)

The Drama Magnet:
They will draw you in with their exciting
presence. They have unusual energy and stories to tell. Their features
are animated and they can be quite witty. They are fun to be around,
until the drama turns ugly. As children, they learned that the only way
to get love and attention that lasted was to enmesh their parents in
their troubles and problems, which had to be large enough to engage
the parents emotionally over time. This became a habit, their way of
feeling alive and wanted. Most people shrink from any kind of
confrontation, but they seem to live for it. As you get to know them
better, you hear more stories of bickering and battles in their life, but
they manage to always position themselves as the victim.
You must realize that their greatest need is to get their hooks into
you by any means possible. They will embroil you in their drama to the
point that you will feel guilty for disengaging. It is best to recognize
them as early as possible, before you become enmeshed and dragged
down. Examine their past for evidence of the pattern and run for the
hills if you suspect you are dealing with such a type.
The Big Talker:
You are impressed by their ideas, the projects that
they are thinking about. They need help, they need backers, and you
are sympathetic, but step back for a moment and examine their record
for signs of past achievements or anything tangible. You might be
dealing with a type that is not overtly dangerous but can prove
maddening and waste your valuable time. In essence, these people are
ambivalent. On the one hand they are secretly afraid of the effort and
responsibility that go with translating their ideas into action. On the
other hand, they crave attention and power. The two sides go to war
within them, but the anxious part inevitably wins out and they slip
away at the last moment. They come up with some reason for getting
out of it, after you have committed to them. They themselves never
finish anything. In the end, they tend to blame others for not realizing
their visions—society, nebulous antagonistic forces, or bad luck. Or
they try to find a sucker who will do all of the hard work in bringing to
life their vague idea but who will take the blame if it all goes wrong.

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Often such people had parents who were inconsistent, would turn
on them suddenly for the smallest misdeed. Consequently their goal in
life is to avoid situations in which they might open themselves up to
criticism and judgment. They handle this by learning to talk well and
impressing people with stories but running away when called to
account, always with an excuse. Look carefully at their past for signs of
this, and if they seem the type, be amused by their stories but take it no
further.