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The Happiest Baby on the Block and The Happiest Toddler on the Block

Bad Day? You’re in Good Company!
“If at first you don’t succeed, you’re running about
average.”
—M. H. Anderson
Even the greatest geniuses fail … many, many times! Dr. Seuss,
America’s beloved children’s author, was rejected twenty-eight
times before he found a publisher for The Cat in the Hat. Barbra
Streisand’s off-Broadway debut opened and closed the same night.
Walt Disney was once fired because he “lacked imagination” and
“had no original ideas.”
Luckily, parenthood is chock-full of second chances. So if you’re
having a tough day, don’t get stuck obsessing over it. To paraphrase
Scarlett O’Hara in Gone With the Wind, tomorrow really is another
day.
Parent Struggle #3: Our Toddlers’ Actions Can
“Push Our Buttons”
“There are days when everything my boy does pushes


“There are days when everything my boy does pushes
my buttons. I end up feeling like I’m one big button!”
—Peter, dad of three-year-old Andrew
Toddlers do have a way of pushing our buttons. Their actions can
unleash from within us strong, often irrational over-reactions. Sometimes
we get so angry we literally can’t think straight or control what we say.
And, the more stressed we get, the more we start acting like primitives
ourselves.
What’s the biggest reason we lose it with our toddlers? Their behavior
triggers demons from our past.
Here’s what I mean: Our kids’ actions may release sudden waves of
memory. Sometimes these can be wonderful. For example, watching
your child lick the bowl may bring back a happy memory of you making
cookies with your mom. But other times they can be deeply upsetting.
Fragments of painful past experiences dwell inside us all, waiting for a
catalyst to bring them to the surface again. For example, being slapped
in the face by your two-year-old may suddenly rekindle the anger you
felt when you were slapped by your father (or, more recently, when you
were insulted by a boss). If your child laughs when you accidentally spill
soup down your shirt, that might bring back the deep hurt you felt when
you were taunted by schoolmates or mocked by a sarcastic grandmother.
Often we react without any specific memory of a similar situation. But
if you feel a sudden surge of anger, hurt, or resentment, that’s a pretty
sure sign that your child’s action has tapped into some strongly upsetting
early experience.

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