3. Having children right after the wedding

8. Having bridesmaids and groomsmen at the wedding

This tradition is pretty old-fashioned today. It’s up to you whether you want to have bridesmaids and groomsmen at your wedding.
“I don’t want my friends to be obligated to buy certain outfits for my wedding. If a couple wants to organize everything this way, they order similar dresses and pay for the order.”
AgapeMagdalena
Modern couples prefer not to give any roles to their guests. Those who want to be surrounded by people in outfits in a unique style should have to pay for all expenses connected with this.

Having children right after the wedding

After getting married, some women face an annoying question from their relatives and friends: “So when are you going to have children?” And they hear it even more often than, “How are you doing?”
“We decided to have a baby 3 years after living together. And we were so tired of hearing that living just for yourself was such a huge problem. But we didn’t want to explain that we wanted my wife to graduate from college first. Some people’s indiscretion did leave us speechless.”
Dobriy Mstitel
There are couples who want to postpone having children because of financial issues, some can’t have children due to health problems, and others just want to live some time by themselves. You can either explain everything patiently or abruptly stop all questions coming from other people, it’s up to you. Remember that no one is allowed to criticize you.

6. Organizing parties for relatives and friends

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Relatives and friends dream about having fun at your wedding, birthday, or anniversary, and it’s so difficult to say, “No.”
“2 years ago, I just realized I didn’t want to celebrate my birthday and needed to be alone for a while. My relatives were so angry, ‘You’re turning 30! You have to celebrate!’ I just switched off my phone that day and felt really great. Why should we always have to be comfortable for our friends and relatives?”
Guest
Some people just want to be selfish and don’t want to orchestrate something just to please other people, and it’s completely OK. Some newlyweds prefer to not have a luxurious wedding, but instead to travel to different countries. Some people just want to spend their birthday all alone. Your celebrations are just that, “your” celebrations.