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Signposting
State what the main theme of the presentation is going to be. Indicate how long the presentation will last. Say what your main points will be. Say when you will take questions – any time or at the end. If you imagine a presentation as a journey, the signposting stage will give the audience a route map, so they will know what is going to happen and how long the journey will last. Signalling Indicate to the audience when you begin your first point. Summarize when you have completed it. Signal when you are about to begin the next point. Summarizing When you reach the end of your last point, briefly summarize all the key points again. This allows your audience to remind themselves of the journey they have just undertaken and helps them identify any points they may have missed or of which they may not have fully appreciated the importance. At the end, reiterate the importance of the main theme. Finally, invite questions and remember to conclude by thanking the audience for its attention, thus indicating that the presentation has ended. Chapter 15 provides further advice on preparing students to give effective presentations across cultural borders. Listening skills In this section we examine the importance of both passive and active listen- ing skills. We look at the barriers to effective listening and how these can be overcome as part of our attempt to develop improved cross- cultural communication. Listening has been described as a process of self- denial. It is a vital skill in assisting us to decode the messages we receive. When we listen, we are usu- ally paying attention to the message and we attempt to make sense of what we hear. Research indicates that most of us listen in short 30-second spurts before our attention tends to wander. Listening tests have also indicated that, on average, people really remember only some 50 per cent of what they have heard immediately afterwards. As we saw in Chapter 1, unless we listen carefully to the message and understand its meaning, there is really • • • • • • • • • • Developing Cross- Cultural Communication Skills 85 little actual communication, only ‘noise’. The listening process involves five related activities: Receiving: what we hear is often blocked out by external noise, distraction, our lack of concentration or lack of interest in the subject matter. Interpreting: the use of a different, unfamiliar frame of reference, values, concepts, attitudes and bias may also impede our understanding. Remembering: the process of storing for future reference, taking notes and summarizing. Evaluating: making a judgment regarding accuracy of facts, opinions, the quality of evidence and reliability of data. Responding: this involves various types of feedback as a result of what is heard, which may include verbal response, laughter, silence, applause and non- verbal responses such as nodding or shaking the head, frowning and smiling. Passive listening is as important as active listening. It can show how we feel about what we are listening to, displaying such emotions ranging from pleasure and agreement to boredom or even hostility. We can reassure the speaker in subtle ways by showing empathy and appearing to concentrate closely, or we can show disagreement by looking angry or indignant. Barriers to effective listening can include the following: Pre- judgment, which involves jumping to conclusions and allowing prejudice and preconceived ideas to dominate. Trying to take control of the conversation by ‘jumping in’ with interrup- tions. We believe that we should be the centre of attention and attempt to monopolize the situation. We are always trying to move the conversation round to a point where we can express our own point of view. We are, in effect, a ‘shift responder’; the other speaker’s conversation is simply a hook to allow us to interrupt and continue with our own train of thought: ‘Funny you should say that. It reminds me of my own experience in …!’ This type of listener is sometimes called a ‘marginal listener’. Listening selectively, concentrating only on what we want to hear and agree with. Competitive listening occurs when we are listening for what we do not agree with and we interrupt to correct, modify or criticize what the speaker is saying. Often described as ‘judgmental listening’, competitive listening is probably the most common type for professional people from all walks of life, but it can at times be seen as too aggressive and attempting to dominate. Reaction to emotive words, such as ‘race’ and ‘stereotypes’. Interrupting – a tendency to ‘over-talk’ caused by our desire to put across our views. • • • • • • • • • • • 86 Cross-Cultural Communication Attempting to take detailed notes and trying to establish what are the key points, a common mistake made by students. Day- dreaming – letting our attention wander to other more important or more interesting concerns. Judging the actual delivery rather than the content by concentrating on mannerisms, dress and accent. The delivery of the speaker – too fast, too complex, too long- winded, patronizing tone, poor preparation and unclear diction. Physical discomfort caused by the location – conditions which are too hot, too cold, too stuffy or subject to too much external noise. Below is a simple example encountered by one of the authors. • • • • • Example Radoslaw, a Polish banker attending a top- level conference on the finan- cial crisis in Europe, was fidgeting in his seat, clearly distracted and not concentrating on what was being discussed. Eventually, the presenter noticed him and wondered why he wasn’t getting through to him. ‘Perhaps’, he thought, ‘he disagrees with my argument or maybe I have offended him in some way.’ When the presenter managed to enquire whether Radoslaw was feeling well, he was somewhat relieved at the answer. ‘No’, he replied, ‘I am feeling too cold to concentrate.’ Radoslaw was right. He was sitting right in front of the air- conditioning vent. Once it was turned off, he relaxed and paid full attention to the presentation. Active listening is a training technique devised in 1977 by Thomas Gordon. It describes a way of focusing on the speaker so that the listener absorbs not only the meaning that the speaker wants to communicate, but also the meaning behind the meaning, that is, emotions and feelings. As a listening technique, it comprises three stages: Repeating: in the repeating stage, we listen and show interest. We may nod or make verbal signals to show we are listening. We pay attention and establish eye contact and we may show we are listening by giving feedback, using exactly the same words used by the speaker. Above all, we try not to interrupt the speaker’s train of thought. Paraphrasing: when it comes to responding, we enter the paraphrase stage. This involves the same processes as repeating, but it is also important to give feedback by using similar phrases to the speaker. This shows that we have listened, have taken time to reflect and have reformulated what the speaker has said in a way that he or she can agree with. • • Developing Cross- Cultural Communication Skills 87 Reflecting: the final stage occurs when we give feedback to the speaker using our own words and approach. Active listeners often complain about the strain of remaining silent while someone else talks. The speakers themselves often talk of the tension of speaking when the listener just concentrates and gives no response. 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