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Dealing with fears in children
1. Parents have to instill feelings of security and confidence in
their children; they should try to understand the things that the
child is afraid of and dispel this fear.
2. They should not use physical punishment with the child for any
reason. For example, if the child is scared of mice the mother can
talk to her child and tell him that the mouse will not harm him.
She can look for some pictures of mice and show them to the
child to dispel his fear, then bring a toy mouse for the child to
touch and play with. However, if the child is upset or distressed
by that, then it can be delayed until another time when he is
more ready for it.
3. They should not make fun of the child’s fears; rather they
should try to calm him down and reassure him.
4. The parents should set an example; they should not show their
fear of anything in front of the child so that the child will not
imitate them. In addition to that, they have to create a calm and
stable atmosphere in the house so that the child will not develop
psychological problems.
5. The parents should not encourage the child when he yells
about anything or is afraid of anything. This encouragement may
come in the form of excessive attention to the child when he is
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afraid, which will reinforce his feelings of fear. Rather they have
to calm him down in a balanced manner, without exaggerating,
so that the child can be helped to extinguish these feelings.
6. The parents should encourage the child to speak about
experiences and things that bother him, so as to reduce the fear
of that or the fear of similar experiences in the future.
7. They should avoid scaring the child when wanting him to do
something that he does not like, such as when the mother says,
“If you do not go to sleep, I will bring So and so [a person whom
he does not like]”, because that will make him feel anxious and
harbor negative feelings towards that person.
8. The mother should buy storybooks for her child that speak of
the bravery of heroic children without scaring him; she should sit
with her child and tell him the story so as to instil positive feelings
towards courage and overcoming fear.
9. If the child’s fear continues and becomes abnormal (i.e.,
phobia), then take him to a psychiatrist or psychologist.