that she is continually loved.
A man commonly makes the mistake of thinking that once he has met all of a woman's primary
love needs, and she feels happy and secure, that she should know from then on that she is
loved. This is not the case. To fulfill her sixth primary love need he must remember to reassure
her again and again.
Similarly, a man primarily needs to be encouraged by a woman. A woman's encouraging
attitude gives hope and courage to a man by expressing confidence in his abilities and
character. When a woman's attitude expresses trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, and
approval it encourages a man to be all that he can be. Feeling encouraged motivates him to give
her the loving reassurance that she needs.
The best comes out in a man when his six primary love needs are fulfilled. But when a woman
doesn't know what he primarily needs and gives a caring love rather than a trusting love, she
may unknowingly sabotage their relationship. This next story exemplifies this point.
THE KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOR
Deep inside every man there is a hero or a knight in shining armor. More than anything, he
wants to succeed in serving and protecting the woman he loves. When he feels trusted, he is
able to tap into this noble part of himself. He becomes more caring. When he doesn't feel
trusted he loses some of his aliveness and energy, and after a while he can stop caring.
Imagine a knight in shining armor traveling through the countryside. Suddenly he hears a
woman crying out in distress. In an instant he comes alive. Urging his horse to a gallop, he
races to her castle, where she is trapped by a dragon. The noble knight pulls out his sword and
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