angry, as long as she doesn't try to change him. Any attempt to change him is unsupportive and
counterproductive.
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When a woman loves a man, she often begins trying to improve their relationship. In her
exuberance she makes him a target for her improvements. She begins a gradual process of
slowly rehabilitating him.
Why Men Resist Change
In a myriad of ways she tries to change him or improve him. She thinks her attempts to change
him are loving, but he feels controlled, manipulated, rejected, and unloved. He will stubbornly
reject her because he feels she is rejecting him. When a woman tries to change a man, he is not
getting the loving trust and acceptance he actually needs to change and grow.
When I ask a room filled with hundreds of women and men they all have had the same
experience: the more a woman tries to change a man, the more he resists.
The problem is that when a man resists her attempts to improve him, she misinterprets his
response. She mistakenly thinks he is not willing to change, probably because he does not love
her enough. The truth is, however, that he is resistant to changing because he believes he is not
being loved enough. When a man feels loved, trusted, accepted, appreciated, and so forth,
automatically he begins to change, grow, and improve.
Two Kinds of Men/One Kind of Behavior
There are two kinds of men. One will become incredibly defensive and stubborn when a
woman tries to change him, while the other will agree to change but later will forget and revert
back to the old behavior. A man either actively resists or passively resists.
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