When a man can listen to a woman's feelings without getting angry and frustrated, he gives her
a wonderful gift. He makes it safe for her to express herself. The more she is able to express
herself, the more she feels heard and understood, and the more she is able to give a man the
loving trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement that he needs.
THE ART OF EMPOWERING A MAN
Just as men need to learn the art of listening to fulfill a woman's primary love needs, women
need to learn the art of empowerment. When a woman enlists the support of a man, she
empowers him to be all that he can be. A man feels empowered when he is trusted, accepted,
appreciated. admired, approved of, and encouraged.
Like in our story of the knight in shining armor, many women try to help their man by
improving him but unknowingly weaken or hurt him. Any attempt to change him takes away
the loving trust. acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement that are his
primary needs.
The secret of empowering a man is never to try to change him or improve him. Certainly you
may want him to change-just don't act on that desire. Only if he directly and specifically asks
for advice is he open to assistance in changing.
Give Trust and Not Advice
On Venus, it is considered a loving gesture to offer advice. But on Mars it is not. Women need
to remember that Martians do not offer advice unless it directly requested. A way of showing
love is to trust another Martian to solve his problems on his own.
This doesn't mean a woman has to squash her feelings. It's OK for her to feel frustrated or even
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