reveal their reciprocal nature.
1. She Needs Caring and He Needs Trust
When a man shows interest in a woman's feelings and heartfelt concern for her well-being, she
feels loved and cared for. When he makes her feel special in this caring way, he succeeds in
fulfilling her first primary need. Naturally she begins to trust him more. When she trusts, she
becomes more open and receptive.
When a woman's attitude is open and receptive toward a man he feels trusted. To trust a man is
to believe that he is doing his best and that he wants the best for his partner. When a woman's
reactions reveal a positive belief in her man's abilities and intentions, his first primary love
need is fulfilled. Automatically he is more caring and attentive to her feelings and needs.
2. She Needs Understanding and He Needs Acceptance
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When a man listens without judgment but with empathy and relatedness to a woman express
her feelings, she feels heard and understood. An understanding attitude doesn't presume to
already know a person's thoughts or feelings; instead, it gathers meaning from what is heard,
and moves toward validating what is being communicated. The more a woman's need to be
heard and understood is fulfilled, the easier it is for her to give her man the acceptance he
needs.
When a woman lovingly' receives a man without trying to change him, he feels accepted. An
accepting attitude does not reject but affirms that he is being favorably received. It does not
mean the woman believes he is perfect but indicates that she is not trying to improve him, that
she trusts him to make his own improvements. When a man feels accepted it is much easier for
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