John Gray – Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus Scanned by nova scanner: Canoscan D1250 U2f software: Omnipage Pro 9 Date: 28 August 2002 Proofed by

As we have already discussed, when a woman Is upset she needs to be heard and understood. 
W'thout this insight into different male and female needs, a mail doesn't understand why his 
attempts to help fall. 
 
THE TWELVE KINDS OF LOVE 
 
Most of our complex emotional needs can be summarized as the need for love. Men and women 
each have six unique love needs that are all equally, important. Men primarily need trust. 
acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement. Women primarily, need 
caring, understanding, respect, devotion, validation, and reassurance. The enormous task of 
figuring out what our partner needs is simplified greatly through understanding these twelve 
different kinds of love. 
 
By reviewing this list you can easily see why, your partner may not feel loved. And most 
important, this list can give you a direction to improve your relationships with the opposite sex 
when you don't know what else to do. 
 
The Primary Love Needs of Women and Men 
 
Here are the different kinds of love listed side by side: 
 
Women Need To Receive 
Men Need To Receive 
1. Caring 
1. Trust 

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2. Understanding 
2. Acceptance 
3. Respect 
3. Appreciation 
4. Devotion 
4. Admiration 
5. Validation 
5. Approval 
6. Reassurance 
6. Encouragement 
Understanding Your Primary Needs 
 
Certainly every man and woman ultimately needs all twelve kinds of love. To acknowledge the 
six kinds of love primarily needed by women does not imply that men do not need these kinds