John Gray – Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus Scanned by nova scanner: Canoscan D1250 U2f software: Omnipage Pro 9 Date: 28 August 2002 Proofed by

sorry that I didn't think to call you. I didn't want to upset you. I wanted you to be happy to see 
me. We have a four-day holiday and I want it to be special. 
 
5. Love.. I love you. I want you to be happy. I understand that you are upset. I understand that 
you need some time to just be upset. I know that you are not trying to make me feel bad. You 
just need a hug and some empathy. I am sorry. Sometimes I don't know what to do and I start 
making you be in the wrong. Thank you for being my wife. I love you so much. You don't have 
to be perfect and you don't have to be happy. I understand that you are upset about the mail. 
 
I love you, Bill 
 
P.S. The response I would like to hear: "I love you, Bill. I appreciate how much you do for me. 
Thank you for being my husband." 
 
 
STEP 2: WRITING A RESPONSE LETTER 
 
Writing a Response Letter is the second step in the Love Letter Technique. Once you have 
expressed both your negative and positive feelings, taking an additional three to five minutes 
to write a Response Letter can be a healing process. In this letter, you will write the kind of 
response you would like to have from your partner. 
 
It works like this. Imagine that your partner is able to respond lovingly to your hurt 
feelings-the ones you expressed in your Love Letter. Write a short letter to yourself pretending 
it is your partner writing to you. Include all the things you would like to hear from your partner 
about the hurts you have expressed. The following lead-in phrases can get you started: 
 
Thank you for... 
I understand... 
I am sorry... 
You deserve...