John Gray – Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus Scanned by nova scanner: Canoscan D1250 U2f software: Omnipage Pro 9 Date: 28 August 2002 Proofed by

forgive you for being so indifferent to me. I forgive you for not responding right away. I 
understand that you were in the middle of reading something. Let's have a loving intimate 
evening. 
 
I love you, Virginia 
 
P.S. The response I would like to hear: I love you, Virginia, and I also want to spend a loving 
evening with you. I am going to miss you." 
 
A Love Letter About Arguing 
 
Michael and Vanessa disagreed about a financial decision. Within a few minutes they got into 
an argument. When Michael noticed that he was starting to yell he stopped yelling, took a deep 
breath, and then said, "I need some time to think about this and then we will talk." Then he 
went into another room and wrote out his feelings in a Love Letter. 
 
After writing the letter he was able to go back and discuss the matter in a more understanding 
way. As a result they were able lovingly to resolve their problem. 
 
This is his Love Letter: 
 
 

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Dear Vanessa, 
 
1. Anger.. I am angry that you get so emotional. I am angry that you keep misunderstanding me. 
I am angry that you can't stay calm when we talk. I am angry that you are so sensitive and easily 
hurt. I am angry that you mistrust and reject me. 
 
2. Sadness.. I am sad that we are arguing. It hurts to feel your doubts and mistrust. It hurts to 
lose your love. I am sad that we fought. I am sad that we disagree. 
 
3. Fear.. I am afraid of making a mistake. I am afraid I can't do what I want to do without