John Gray – Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus Scanned by nova scanner: Canoscan D1250 U2f software: Omnipage Pro 9 Date: 28 August 2002 Proofed by

 
When Tom comes home, he wants to relax and unwind by quietly reading the news. He is 
stressed by the unsolved problems of his day and finds relief through forgetting them. 
 
His wife, Mary, also wants to relax from her stressful day. She, however, wants to find relief by 
talking about the problems of her day. The tension slowly building between them gradually 
becomes resentment. 
 
Tom secretly thinks Mary talks too much, while Mary feels ignored. Without understanding 
their differences they will grow further apart. 
 
You probably can recognize this situation because it is just one of many examples where men 
and women are at odds. This problem is not just Tom and Mary's but is present in almost every 
relationship. 
 
Solving this problem for Tom and Mary depends not on how much they loved each other but 
on how much they understood the opposite sex. 
 
Without knowing that women really do need to talk about problems to feel better, Tom would 
continue to think Mary talked too much and resist listening to her. Without knowing that Tom 
was reading the news to feel better, Mary would feel ignored and neglected. She would persist 
in trying to get him to talk when he didn't want to. 
 
These two differences can be resolved by first understanding in greater detail how men and 
women cope with stress. Let's again observe life on Mars and Venus and glean some insights 
about men and women. 
 
COPING WITH STRESS ON MARS AND VENUS 
 
When a Martian gets upset he never talks about what is bothering him* He would never 
burden another Martian with his problem unless his friend's assistance was necessary to solve