he begins forming opinions and finding solutions for the world's problems. Gradually his
mind becomes increasingly involved with the problems in the news and he forgets his own. In
this way he makes the transition from being focused on his problems at work to focusing on
the many problems of the world (for which he is not directly responsible. This process releases
his mind from the gripping problems of work so he can focus on his wife and family again.
Tom watches a football game to release his stress and unwind. He releases his mind from
trying to solve his own problems by solving the problems of his favorite team. Through
watching sports he can vicariously feel he has solved a problem with each play. When his team
scores points or wins, he enjoys the feeling of success. If his team loses, he suffers their loss as
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his own. In either case, however, his mind is released from the grip of his real problems.
For Tom and many men the inevitable release of tension that occurs at the completion of any
sporting event, news event, or movie provides a release from the tension he feels in his life.
HOW WOMEN REACT TO THE CAVE
When a man is stuck in his cave, he is powerless to give his partner the quality attention she
deserves. It is hard for her to be accepting of him at these times because she doesn't know how
stressed he is. If he were to come home and talk about all his problems, then she could be more
compassionate. Instead he doesn't talk about his problems, and she feels he is ignoring her. She
can tell he is upset but mistakenly assumes he doesn't care about her because he isn't talking to
her.
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