training. He may be able to take off, but he is sure to crash. It is difficult to continue flying once
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you have crashed the plane a few times. Or if you witnessed your father crash. Without a good
training manual for relationships, it is easy to understand why many men and women give up
on relationships.
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Chapter 5
Speaking
Different Languages
When the Martians and Venusians first got together, they encountered many of the problems
with relationships we have today. Because they recognized that they were different, they were
able to solve these problems. One of the secrets of their success was good communication.
Ironically, they communicated well because they spoke different languages. When they had
problems, they would just go to a translator for assistance. Everyone knew that people from
Mars and people from Venus spoke different languages, so when there was a conflict they
didn't start judging or fighting but instead pulled out their phrase dictionaries to understand
each other more fully. If that didn't work they went to a translator for help.
You see the Martian and Venusian languages had the same words, but the way they were used
gave different meanings. Their expressions were similar, but they had different connotations or
emotional emphasis. Misinterpreting each other was very easy. SO when communication
problems emerged, they assumed it was just one of those expected misunderstandings and that
with a little assistance they would surely understand each other. They experienced a trust and
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