You can see how a "literal" translation of a woman's words could easily mislead a man who is
used to using speech as a means of conveying only facts and information. We can also see how
a man's responses might lead to an argument. Unclear and unloving communication is the
biggest problem in relationships. The number one complaint women have in relationships is: "I
don't feel heard." Even this complaint is misunderstood and misinterpreted!
A man's literal translation of "I don't feel heard" leads him to invalidate and argue with her
feelings. He thinks he has heard her if he can repeat what she has said. A translation of a
woman saying "I don't feel heard" so that a man could correctly Interpret it is: -I feel as though
you don't fully understand what I really mean to say or care about how I feel. Would you show
me that you are interested in what I have to say?"
If a man really understood her complaint then he would argue less and be able to respond more
positively. When men and women are on the verge of arguing, they are generally
misunderstanding each other. At such times, it is important to rethink or translate what they
have heard.
Because many men don't understand that women express feelings differently, they
inappropriately judge or invalidate their partner's feelings. This leads to arguments. The
ancient Martians learned to avoid many arguments through correct understanding. Whenever
listening stirred up some resistance, they consulted their Venusian/Martian Phrase Dictionary
for a correct interpretation.
WHEN VENUSIANS TALK
The following section contains various excerpts from the lost Venusian/Martian Phrase
Dictionary. Each of the ten complaints listed above is translated so that a man can understand
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