Without this translation, when a woman says "Everyone ignores me" a man may hear "I am so
unhappy. I just can't get the attention I need. Everything is completely hopeless. Even you don't
notice me, and you are the person who is supposed to love me. You should be ashamed. You are
so unloving. I would never ignore you this way."
"I am so tired, I can't do anything" translated into Martian means "I have been doing so much
today. I really need a rest before I can do anything more. I am so lucky to have your support.
Would you give me a hug and reassure me that I am doing a good job and that I deserve a rest?"
Without this translation, when a woman says "I am so tired, I can't do anything" a man may
hear "I do everything and you do nothing. You should do more. I can't do it all. I feel so
hopeless. I want a 'real man' to live with. Picking you was a big mistake."
"I want to forget everything" translated into Martian means "I want you to know that I love my
work and my life but today I am so overwhelmed. I would love to do something really
nurturing for myself before I have to be responsible again. Would you ask me 'What's the
matter?' and then listen with empathy without offering any solutions? I just want to feel you
understanding the pressures I feel. It would make me feel so much better. It helps me to relax.
Tomorrow I will get back to being responsible and handling things."
Without this translation, when a woman says "I want to forget everything" a man may hear "I
have to do so much that I don't want to do. I am so unhappy with you and our relationship. I
want a better partner who can make my life more fulfilling. You are doing a terrible job."
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