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Finish Give Yourself the Gift of Done
particularly dangerous. You see this happen to professional athletes and child stars sometimes. From the age of six to thirty, football was your everything. Now, at thirty-one, you’re considered old and past your prime. You get cut from the team and suddenly don’t know who you are anymore. Then, even worse, you have to do commercials for Wrangler Jeans. Fortunately for you and me, way back in chapter 5 we prepared for this. You have an entire list of “what now” possibilities. Remember all the next ideas you added to your list? Well, when you finish this goal, you get to pull that back out. I get to work on a podcast, for example. The finish line isn’t scary when you realize it’s also a starting line for thenext thing. It’s not the end, it’s just a different kind of beginning. I once stood on the edge of a Central American cliff wondering, “What now?” I’d spent a few weeks during college in Costa Rica learning Spanish for my minor. I went on the trip with thirty other students and was overwhelmed by the reality that the trip was over. I knew that all the cliques that had disappeared when we went on the trip would re-form back at college. I’d never talk to the thirty people I had become friends with. I stood on the edge overlooking the ocean, inventing the emo subculture with my sadness. All around me, people were laughing and having fun, enjoying one of our last nights together, and I was at a private funeral for one. This was not a moment I dealt with only once. I also feel this sometimes when I speak at events. One day, I spoke to a thousand people in Atlanta. It was an emotional event because it was one I had wanted to speak at for five years. The peak of that moment was incredibly high. After the event, I was supposed to eat dinner with the other speakers, but got the wrong address. Ten minutes after stepping offstage, I found myself standing in a Firehouse Subs parking lot. When I went inside to order a sandwich, five people from the audience were already eating and offered me a seat at their table. They looked at me with a sort of sad, sub- shop pity. “What are you doing here?” they asked. It was an incredibly humbling experience. I’m not the only one who got crushed by a lack of “what now.” In the documentary Conan O’Brien Can’t Stop, we watch Conan tour the country after getting fired from his show on NBC. The entire film deals with the difficulty of “what now,” but none so more than one scene in New York. Conan has just played a sold-out concert in Radio City Music Hall. There’s a massive crowd of people in the streets hoping that he’ll come out after the show. One of Conan’s employees says, “You’re not going out there.” Conan, looking stunned, says, “You don’t get it. I can’t go from this, [performing] to doing what? Reading a Kindle?” With a shrug he heads back outside to bask in some more adulation. You need an answer to what now. That’s a legitimate thing to think through, but again, don’t let perfectionism sneak in. It will tell you that you need a perfect answer to what now before you finish. That’s nonsense. You don’t need to have the next thing figured out before you finish this thing. Finish anyway. Don’t let the fear of what’s next steal the joy of finishing what’s now. Don’t let perfectionism distract you with a fictional second goal when you’ve got a real one almost done. If one of those fears doesn’t stop you, simple reality will. It’s easier to start a new goal than it is to finish an old one. It’s amazing how attractive all our other desires get the closer we get to completing one. The Sirens who wooed Odysseus had nothing on the distraction of new goals that would shipwreck us in this moment. It’s like watching a thousand movie trailers but never actually finishing a whole film. You’ll get a brief burst of excitement but will miss what makes a movie really special if you keep starting a new one over and over again. Don’t lose focus. Don’t give in to the new in this moment. Don’t quit now. We’re so close, and there’s someone you need to meet who will make sure you don’t. Download 1.11 Mb. Do'stlaringiz bilan baham: |
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