Girl Code: Unlocking the Secrets to Success, Sanity, and Happiness for the Female Entrepreneur

Create something you wish existed
Rather than looking around at what everyone else is creating, think about
what you wish already existed. What story needs to be told? What product
needs to be created? Our inner magic shines when we stop trying to
replicate other successful ventures and innovate from our own desires.
What can you create? How will this help people?

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GIRL CODE: Notes
MY BIGGEST TAKEAWAY FROM THIS CHAPTER:

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CHAPTER THREE
The Power of Connection
“There is a special place in hell for women who don’t help each other.”
– Madeleine Albright
Connection is an integral part of success as a female entrepreneur.
Women are better together – plain and simple. There is no reason to walk
this path alone. When you learn to embrace the power of connection, to
share information, and to genuinely help someone else, you open yourself
up to a world of opportunity and fulfillment that feels so much better than
solitude and detachment.
I have always been a giver. I’ve always been the girl that everyone
sends their resume to, the girl who offers up her contacts, makes
introductions, and helps people connect. I answer emails all the time from
my readers, and I try to respond to as many social media comments as I can.
I love empowering women and helping them rise to success. I don’t believe
that wisdom should be withheld and I think that stems from a deep-rooted
confidence that I have within myself. Remember the idea of limitless luxe?
There is more than enough to go around, honey. So why would anyone want
to keep it to themselves?
The women who are selfish and stingy when it comes to connecting
other women are certainly not living by the secrets of Girl Code. They don’t
understand that by helping someone else you are also helping yourself
grow. You’re sending a powerful message to the Universe that you are self-
assured enough to help someone else succeed – even if you receive nothing
back in return for it.

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Now don’t get me wrong – I’m not suggesting you bleed someone dry
for information. I certainly don’t believe in abusing relationships or
expecting to have things handed to you. It should always be a two-way
street. You can’t expect someone to share their entire list of contacts with
you that they worked hard to build, and you should not assume that you can
mooch off another person’s success and hard-earned insight. But there is a
gentle balance there, and there is plenty of room to share and help lift
another woman up in any way that feels comfortable to you.
My rule of thumb always is: go with your gut. If you feel comfortable
asking for help, do it. If you feel comfortable sharing and helping someone,
do it. When it starts to get weird, or you have bad vibes, it’s totally okay to
pay attention to those – in fact, you must. Empowering someone should feel
good. If it feels uncomfortable, it’s time to reassess your actions and move
on.
And if you’re in the position where you’re asking someone for help,
always, always think about how you can help that person in return. Think
you don’t have value? Think again! Put your thinking tiara on and come up
with some fabulous ways you can extend your support – there are more
ways than you realize. If you can’t come up with something, a simple,
“How can I support you?” works wonders.