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feelings without arguing or fighting. 
 
Some couples fight all the time, and gradually their love dies. On the other extreme, some 
couples suppress their honest feelings in order to avoid conflict and not argue. As a result of 
suppressing their true feelings they lose touch with their loving feelings as well. One couple is 
having a war while the other is having a cold war. 
 
It is best for a couple to find a balance between these two extremes. By remembering we are 
from different planets and thus developing good communication skills, it is possible to avoid 
arguments without suppressing negative feelings and conflicting ideas and desires. 
 
 
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE ARGUE 
 
Without understanding how men and women are different it is very easy to get into arguments 
that hurt not only our partner but also ourselves. The secret to avoiding arguments is loving 
and respectful communication. 
 
The differences and disagreements don't hurt as much as the ways in which we communicate 
them. Ideally an argument does not have to be hurtful; instead it can simply be an engaging 
conversation that expresses our differences and disagreements. (Inevitably all couples will have 
differences and disagree at times.) But practically speaking most couples start out arguing 
about one thing and, within five minutes, are arguing about the way they are arguing. 
 
Unknowingly they begin hurting each other; what could have been an innocent argument, 
easily resolved with mutual understanding and an acceptance of differences, escalates into a 

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battle. They refuse to accept or understand the content of their partner's point of view because