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Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus

 
Everywhere small support groups on almost every topic meet each week to give and receive this 
support. Group support is especially helpful if as children we did not feel safe to express 
ourselves in groups or in our family. While any positive group activity is empowering
speaking or listening in a loving and supportive group can be personally healing. 
 
1 meet regularly with a small men's support group, and my wife, Bonnie , meets regularly with 
her women's support group. Getting this outside support greatly enhances our relationship. It 
frees us from looking to each other as the sole source of support. In addition, by listening to 
others share their successes and failures our own problems tend to shrink. 
 
Taking time to Listen 
 
Whether you are privately writing down your thoughts and feelings on your computer or 
sharing them in therapy, in your relationships, or in a support group, you are taking an 
important step for yourself. When you take the time to listen to your feelings you are in effect 
saying to the little feeling person inside "You matter. You deserve to be heard and I care enough 
to listen." 
 
I hope you will use this Love Letter Technique because I have witnessed it transform the lives 
of thousands of people, including my own. As you write more Love Letters it becomes easier 
and works better. It takes practice, but it is worth it. 


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Chapter 12 
 
How to Ask for 
Support and Get It 
 
If you are not getting the support you want in your relationships a significant reason may be 
that you do not ask enough or you may ask in a way that doesn't work. Asking for love and 

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